real talk
intimate,
slow,
listening
taking turns,
being present
trying to be present
this kind of talk,
daily,
daily
every day, get it,
this talk,
has this amazing possibility:
you can be a new you
this day,
each day as you speak and
attempt to stay present with your partner
and it has this amazing possibility, too
your partner can be a new her or him
this day,
each day,
as they speak and listen and
attempt to stay present
even if you two are just yaking about your day
if present,
you can notice,
and then say:
oh, as I'm talking about my boss, I realize
that I'm saying the same phrases I always say
and that I'm tightening my upper stomach and lower chest
and,
( pause to go in..
with 3 minutes to talk,
you don't have to rush it out
for fear/ realization that the other person
is going to jump in and squelch the silence)
A pause to go in...
ah, I'm definitely feeling defensive and angry at my boss
and now I look out
into the world in the present
and see you looking at me
and see you breathing
and then I remember my breathing
and I remember how much I love you
and now this is a whole different talking
than
just complaining about work
the way that
the robot in me
wants to do
...
ta da
so we can be new
we always can
and what if this were part of the love game
the relationship contract?
each day
before dinner
talk that tries to be present
touch that tries to be present
doesn't that sound like a nice present
to ourselves?
to you and your sweetie?
you and your sweetie,
with whom you are usually to busy to
connect
even though
and we all know this
connecting in
the present
and
in
love ( which may well be the same thing)
is what
life
is
all
about?
cheers,
chris
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