our feet are as far from our heads as we can get
many a person, perhaps even you, has realized that
being in our heads
think think think
is a way that often avoids life, love and connection
( yeah, yeah, there are problems
to be solved
good
when they are there to be solved
think
and then....
what about the rest of the time)
so
here's a game for today
put your attention as full
time
as possible
on sensing both feet
while you read this
while you do the next thing
while you talk
while you think
and especially
when you are interacting with your partner
in your half hour of love and sex before dinner
in the talking
in the ten minute naked makeout
in sex that is two way
in sex that is one way
in all of these
attempt
with joy and humor
and
intent
to have attention
on three places:
your feet
your heart
your breathing
if sex is involved,
then my all means enjoy your genitals
and mouths
and tongues
oh, yeah:
and look into each other's eyes
in all the activities
except the one way sex
ha, what a nice
assignment
but
don't forget
dive in
feet first
As we meander through these essays,
these daily chapters unfolding,
we will explore this one:
truth as the best foreplay
and sometimes
touch is the way to access that truth
and sometimes touch is the only
way
we can really remember how remarkable
connection is
one human
to another
and so today's suggestion is
to have
a ten minute naked make out first
some days talk before the sex
and some days have the sex before the talk
always have both
and this is the touch/ sex practice I recommend most
the ten minute
naked make out
it's two way
it gives a lot of your body a chance
to connect with
feel
move with
caress
be caressed by
the other body
let's play it this way:
mindfulness
is the undercurrent
how much awareness can you have
as you kiss
and touch
and caress
and get caress
and let the legs play
and here's the catch:
set a timer
when it's over,
stop
thank each other
get out of the bed
get dressed
go talk
talk sitting up
talk in your clothes
talk in another room
maybe hold hands while you talk
touch is good
there are many subtleties to this practice
but for now
naked
timer
stay present
stop when the ten minutes is up
you can do it again at the end of the day
with no timer and the falling into more sex that
we are so used to,
and
and
and
this is sex before dinner
this is a nourishment
that you are going to give yourselves every day
don't make it such a big deal
that you don't want to
keep it going
keep it up
keep it kissing along
day after
day
after
day
....
you begin to get the idea.
this might be very good for your relationship,
right?
cheers
Chris
